In the past, whenever I ministered on forgiveness, there were questions asked about Christians interacting with those whom they have forgiven—specifically when bodily harm, child abuse, or domestic violence was the forgiven sin.
Inevitably, the question is asked: “Must I reunite, reconcile, or resume the relationship in order to have truly forgiven this person?”
That question is often followed by this statement, especially from new believers: “I’m afraid of the abuse for my children and myself, but someone told me that if I didn’t reconcile, God would judge me for unforgiveness. As a Christian, must I resume this relationship?”
For this reason, if I minister on forgiveness, I also address situations involving bodily harm.
My answer remains the same: “No. Reconciling a relationship where bodily harm is a threat is not necessary to forgive someone; nor is it wise. Forgiveness is a matter of the heart; it is judged only by the Lord.”
I John 4:18a KJV:
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear.